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forumposter123@protonmail.com's avatar

I thought "cope" meant the total opposite of your meaning.

Cope = That is you make excuses for your failures in order to avoid making difficult choices to change the outcome.

From your link:

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John: "I asked Kelly out, but she rejected me. But I ain't mad, she was an ugly bitch anyway. It's her loss!"

Peter: "Cope. You obviously wanted to date her. Otherwise you wouldn't have asked her out."

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In this scenario John should recognize that either he wasn't good enough to have his offer accepted or he is asking out the wrong people. In either case the recognition of this fact should cause a change of behavior (either self improvement or a change in who John propositions) that would be more likely to lead to success.

Coping is John pretending his rejection contains within it no information about his situation worth reflecting on, despite the obvious fact that it does.

I will offer one other example.

Throughout the summer there was a lot of "copium" about the Ukranian counter offensive. Go back and read the news and every week you would be told that "oh yeah it's really super secret special working you just can't see it." In reality it seems everyone knew it wouldn't work from before it even started, but they "copiumed" themselves into forcing a bunch of shanghaied conscripts to Banzai charge themselves into minefields.

I'm sure Russian State TV has lots of copium on it, this isn't about taking a side in the conflict about who has more copium. I'm just more exposed to the kind I'm subjected too.

A similar kind of copium happened throughout WWI, generals copiumed themselves about how the next idiotic offensive wasn't going to fail like the last.

The obvious thing people should have done is accepted the facts as they are and then take rational steps to lead to better outcomes.

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Gesild's avatar

Can someone please introduce me to some incels?! I've met so many young women abroad who are desperate to find a man to marry in the US. If the goal is marriage and settling down no man in the US should have a hard time finding a partner.

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