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UndeservingPorcupine's avatar

Isn't the best explanation here just social desirability bias? Media says non-straights are great, so it sounds good to say you're not straight. The vast majority of these newly identified bisexuals are just straight people, many of whom of had one or two awkward, unpleasant "experiments" because they felt being gay was virtuous.

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Paving the Way's avatar

People also need to understand that maintaining a healthy sexual life requires self discipline.

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Larry Siegel's avatar

It requires even more self-discipline now that positive rather than negative social points are scored for being sexually "nonconforming."

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Martin Blank's avatar

Yeah I grew up in the 90s and was very pro LGB. Even went out to gay bars with gay friends. Even was kissed by a gay man once and didn't freak out. But straight as an arrow and to claim otherwise would be silly. Nevertheless I have no trouble imagining a 19-21 year old me born 20 years ago instead of 40+ saying they were "bi-sexual" just to fit in an score points.

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Pete Smoot's avatar

Which, unfortunately, increases the risks of getting hit on by gay friends. And the difficulty turning down an offer. "Yeah, I'm bi but I'm just not into you" is much more a personal rejection than "thanks, I'm flattered but don't swing that way". It's another version of "it's not you, it's me".

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Jake Williams's avatar

Caplan covers this towards the end of the article under his discussion of conformity.

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UndeservingPorcupine's avatar

Mmm. Maybe. But I feel like there's a difference between conformity (actually becoming like your peers) and SDB (saying the thing that sounds best to your peers).

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