34 years ago my wife and I faced this problem, but such was our relationship then that neither of us put the stop seeing the other option second, it was last for both of us. 32 years ago we stopped having this problem, and we've been married almost 27 years now. I'd say that the closer a couple becomes the harder the problem becomes, except that quite often the stop seeing the other option becomes even harder to accept.
...what about gaining attraction? It's happened before that I start out not being attracted to a friend, and then become attracted. If they had feelings for me, but didn't want to just be friends, it would plausibly be the right bet to tough out a friendship for a while in hopes of me becoming attracted.
34 years ago my wife and I faced this problem, but such was our relationship then that neither of us put the stop seeing the other option second, it was last for both of us. 32 years ago we stopped having this problem, and we've been married almost 27 years now. I'd say that the closer a couple becomes the harder the problem becomes, except that quite often the stop seeing the other option becomes even harder to accept.
...what about gaining attraction? It's happened before that I start out not being attracted to a friend, and then become attracted. If they had feelings for me, but didn't want to just be friends, it would plausibly be the right bet to tough out a friendship for a while in hopes of me becoming attracted.
This is why I DON'T HAVE ANY FRIENDS.